Allowing Children To experience "suffering"
They came into this world through you, but they are not "yours". The belief "I know that for you better, could be true only when they are very small, but what they were older, the less truth in this. The more you have expectations about how their lives should unfold, the more you have in mind. It is better to be present for them. In the end, they will make mistakes, and, like all people, will be in one form or another to suffer.
In fact, it would be an error only from your point of view. The fact that you seem a mistake, it may be exactly what your children need to do or experience. Afford them such assistance, and let as much guidance as to your best, but bear in mind that from time to time you'll have to let them make mistakes, especially when they are on the verge of adulthood. Sometimes you can also allow them to suffer. It may fall on them like a bolt from the sky, or a consequence of their own mistakes. Will there be great if you can save them from suffering? No, I will not. Then they can develop as human beings, and will remain shallow, superficial, as identified by their appearance and belongings. Suffering leads to depth. The paradox is that suffering comes from identification with form, and it is this identification breaks. Much suffering comes from the ego, but ultimately, suffering itself leads to a blurring of the ego - if, of course, you suffered enough.
Humanity is destined to go beyond suffering, but not like thinking of the ego. One of the many erroneous ideas, misleading, is this: "I do not have to suffer. Sometimes this idea is transferred to someone from the family - "My child should not suffer." At the core of suffering is this very idea. Suffering has a noble purpose: the evolution of consciousness and the burning of the ego. Man on the cross - is the archetypal image, it is every man and woman. Resisting the suffering, you delay the process, because the resistance only increases the ego, you want to burn.
When you take pain, the result is that you begin to suffer consciously, the process is accelerated. You can take your own pain or suffering of someone else, for example, your child or parent. In the conscious suffering has already been laid transformation. The fire of suffering becomes the light of consciousness. Ego said: "I do not have to suffer." And this very thought makes you suffer much more. This perversion of the truth, and truth are always paradoxical. It is this: to get out of suffering, you first need to enter it, tell him "yes."
They came into this world through you, but they are not "yours". The belief "I know that for you better, could be true only when they are very small, but what they were older, the less truth in this. The more you have expectations about how their lives should unfold, the more you have in mind. It is better to be present for them. In the end, they will make mistakes, and, like all people, will be in one form or another to suffer.
In fact, it would be an error only from your point of view. The fact that you seem a mistake, it may be exactly what your children need to do or experience. Afford them such assistance, and let as much guidance as to your best, but bear in mind that from time to time you'll have to let them make mistakes, especially when they are on the verge of adulthood. Sometimes you can also allow them to suffer. It may fall on them like a bolt from the sky, or a consequence of their own mistakes. Will there be great if you can save them from suffering? No, I will not. Then they can develop as human beings, and will remain shallow, superficial, as identified by their appearance and belongings. Suffering leads to depth. The paradox is that suffering comes from identification with form, and it is this identification breaks. Much suffering comes from the ego, but ultimately, suffering itself leads to a blurring of the ego - if, of course, you suffered enough.
Humanity is destined to go beyond suffering, but not like thinking of the ego. One of the many erroneous ideas, misleading, is this: "I do not have to suffer. Sometimes this idea is transferred to someone from the family - "My child should not suffer." At the core of suffering is this very idea. Suffering has a noble purpose: the evolution of consciousness and the burning of the ego. Man on the cross - is the archetypal image, it is every man and woman. Resisting the suffering, you delay the process, because the resistance only increases the ego, you want to burn.
When you take pain, the result is that you begin to suffer consciously, the process is accelerated. You can take your own pain or suffering of someone else, for example, your child or parent. In the conscious suffering has already been laid transformation. The fire of suffering becomes the light of consciousness. Ego said: "I do not have to suffer." And this very thought makes you suffer much more. This perversion of the truth, and truth are always paradoxical. It is this: to get out of suffering, you first need to enter it, tell him "yes."
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