Parents and Children: Planned Parenthood
Many children have latent anger and hostility toward parents, and often the reason for this is no real relationship with them. The child has a deep strong desire that his father was a man, not the role, as if he did not faithfully executed. For your child you can do everything in your power and do it right, but even that is not enough. In fact, doing is never enough if you despised existent. The ego knows nothing about their existing, but believes that doing will save you. If you are trapped in the clutches of the ego, you believe that making more and more, you eventually accumulate enough "made" so that someday in the future, feel happy. Fail. You just uvyaznesh in the making. The entire civilization is caught in the making, the basis of which is not being, but because it is doing in vain.
How can you make in life being is a restless and fussy family, relationship with his child? The key is to give the child attention. There are two types of attention. The basis of the first type is the form. Another type of attention is not associated with the form. Attention, based on form, always, one way or another connected with the making of, or assessment. "You have done your homework? Go to dinner. Take away in his room. Toothpaste. Loans to those. Stop it. Make haste, prepare. What should we do next? This question fairly accurately sums up what looks like life in most families. Attention-based form, of course, necessary, and it finds its place, but if the relationship with the child there is nothing else, you lose the most important dimension to the life and being is completely obscured by doing, or, as Jesus said, "worldly cares . Attention is not associated with the form, is inseparable from the measurement of Being. How it works
When you look at a child, listening to him, touch him or help him one way or another - you are alert, calm, completely prisutstvuesh not want anything other than the given moment - such as it is. So you create a space for Being. At this moment, if you prisutstvuesh, you're not a mother and father. You - vigilance, readiness, calm presence, who listens, looks, touches, even speaks. You - for being is doing.
Many children have latent anger and hostility toward parents, and often the reason for this is no real relationship with them. The child has a deep strong desire that his father was a man, not the role, as if he did not faithfully executed. For your child you can do everything in your power and do it right, but even that is not enough. In fact, doing is never enough if you despised existent. The ego knows nothing about their existing, but believes that doing will save you. If you are trapped in the clutches of the ego, you believe that making more and more, you eventually accumulate enough "made" so that someday in the future, feel happy. Fail. You just uvyaznesh in the making. The entire civilization is caught in the making, the basis of which is not being, but because it is doing in vain.
How can you make in life being is a restless and fussy family, relationship with his child? The key is to give the child attention. There are two types of attention. The basis of the first type is the form. Another type of attention is not associated with the form. Attention, based on form, always, one way or another connected with the making of, or assessment. "You have done your homework? Go to dinner. Take away in his room. Toothpaste. Loans to those. Stop it. Make haste, prepare. What should we do next? This question fairly accurately sums up what looks like life in most families. Attention-based form, of course, necessary, and it finds its place, but if the relationship with the child there is nothing else, you lose the most important dimension to the life and being is completely obscured by doing, or, as Jesus said, "worldly cares . Attention is not associated with the form, is inseparable from the measurement of Being. How it works
When you look at a child, listening to him, touch him or help him one way or another - you are alert, calm, completely prisutstvuesh not want anything other than the given moment - such as it is. So you create a space for Being. At this moment, if you prisutstvuesh, you're not a mother and father. You - vigilance, readiness, calm presence, who listens, looks, touches, even speaks. You - for being is doing.
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