Can we turn dependent relationship in the present?

From attachment to enlightenment Relations 

Can we turn dependent relationship in the present? 

Sure. Exists in the present, to deepen and strengthen our presence, as far as possible shifting the focus of attention at the time is now: even matter how you live: alone or with a partner - in any case the presence is a key element. For to love blossomed, the light of your presence be so strong, so that your thinking ego or body-pain were not able to pull you out of time now, and that you accidentally did not accept them for who you are. To know herself as a being outside of the thinking ego, as calm, standing for the mental noise, like love and joy behind the pain - that is freedom, salvation, enlightenment. Razotozhdestvit itself and the body-pain means to bring this pain presence and thus to transform it. Razotozhdestvit themselves to the thinker, then become a silent observer of their thoughts and their behavior, particularly in the endlessly repeated play patterns of their mind, as well as the means to become an observer of the roles that are performed by the ego. 

If you stop stuffed egos of his "self", the mind loses its compulsive quality, which mainly manifests itself as a tiresome habit of blame and, thereby, to resist what is, and that creates conflict, drama and new pain. In fact, at the very moment when, through the adoption of what is, you cease to judge, it becomes free from the mind. That you create the space for love, for joy, for peace and quiet. First of all, stop condemning himself, then stop condemn partner. The most powerful catalyst for change in relations is the full acceptance of his partner as he is, freed from the need to condemn or to remake it one way or syak. It immediately makes you beyond ego. All the mind games finished, done away with the affection and dependence. There are no more victims and abusers, judges and prisoners. This will put an end to any interdependence, become involved in the implementation of and complicity in the implementation of someone else's unconscious behavior, and thus put an end to the continuation of all this. Then you either are separating - in love - or even further along will leave at the moment is now - in being. Really, so simple? Yes, that simple. 

Love - is a state of being. Your love is not outside - it is deep within you. You never lose it, but she will never leave you. It does not depend on any external shape, or any other body who turned down beside you. In the calm of your presence you can feel your own formless and timeless reality as undeveloped life, and that fills your physical body. Then you get to deeply feel the same life in any other man, and even any other creature. You look behind the scenes of forms and their disunity. This is the realization of one-in-common. This is love. 

What is God? This is an eternal one-in-One Life outside and inside all life forms. What is love? This is the feeling that this one-in-One Life deep within yourself and within all beings. What does it mean to love? That means - to be love. Because all love - a love Boga.Lyubov not selective, as well as indiscriminate sunlight. She nobody checks and does not special. Love is not exclusive. Exclusivity - this is not the love of God is "love" of ego. However, the force with which the love is felt can vary. It happens that a man reflects to you sent you love is clearer and stronger than others, and if that person is experiencing the same feelings towards you, then we can say that you are with him or her in romantic relationships. Communication that connects you with this person, the same that connects you with any other, say, sitting side by side in the bus, or a bird or a tree or a flower. The only difference is in force, that you feel. 

Even in some of the other dependent relations are times when shines through them something real, something worthwhile for the interdependence of the needs in each other. These are moments when both your mind and mind your partner for a short time stops, and body pain becomes dormant

Relationships: Harmful Attachment

Relationships: Harmful Attachment 

Why should we be attached to another person? 

The reason why the romantic love relationships are so strong, so intense and always in demand is the fact that they appear bearing exemption from deeply hidden in the human feelings of fear, need, deficiency and inferiority, which are part of human existence in its uncoated form and unrealized . In addition, there are physical and psychological aspects of this condition. 

On the physical plane, clearly you are piecemeal, and never will be internally consistent: for you are either a man or a woman, and this, as they say, half of the whole. In this regard, the desire for integrity, a return to unity, manifested in the form of sexual attraction - a man want a woman, a woman - a man. It's almost irresistible desire to reunite with the opposite energy polarity. The root of this physical attraction - the spiritual: a strong desire to put an end to duality and return to a state of integrity. Sexual contact allows you to closest approach to this state on the physical plane. That is why it is the strongest sense, which only can give us the physical reality. But sexual intercourse is no more than a fleeting glimpse of integrity, a moment of bliss. Because it is unconsciously perceived as a means of salvation, it turns out that the end of this duality, you start looking at the world of forms, that is, where it can not be found. You have granted a tantalizing, exciting, fleeting glimpse of thee for a moment shows a paradise, but to dwell in it are not permitted, and in addition to all this, you will again notice that resides in a separate body. 

In psychological terms a sense of inadequacy and inferiority is even something much more than the physical. Because you identify yourself with reason, that feeling you get yourself outside. Indeed, a sense of who you are, what you get is the fact that, ultimately, does not have any relation to you: that is, from their social role, marital property, appearance, successes and failures of the system of religion and etc. This false self or ego, created by the mind, feels vulnerable, endangered, and always prowling in search of something new, identification with what will allow him to feel that it exists. But in order to ensure his long existence, always something missing, and nothing and is never enough. Therefore, his fear never disappears, his sense of failure and needs always. 

And now there are these special relationships. It creates the impression that they bring with them a solution to all problems of ego and meet all his needs. At least so it seems at first. Everything else, from which you removed the first of its sense of itself, now becomes relatively unimportant. Now you have a single focus of attention, which supersedes all others, gives meaning to your life, and through which you find his identity: personality, which you are "in love". Now you are no longer an isolated fragment of indifferent universe, or is at least so you think. Now is the center of your world: only adored. And the fact that this center is located outside, and for that reason you have an existing sense of self is still continues to flow from the outside, at first did not seem to have meaning. Important is that lying under all these feelings of inadequacy, fear, failure and lack of implementation, so characteristic of the selfish state is no longer - or do they have? Surely they were dissolved, or still exist below the plane happy reality? 

If you experience their relationship and "love" and its opposite, that is, attacks, emotional abuse, etc., it seems that you have mistaken for love and affection of the ego its physical dependence. You can not love your partner, and the next moment to attack him or her. True love has no opposites. If your "love" is opposed, then it is not love but a strong need for ego in a more complete and deeper sense of yourself, it's your needs that other people just always satisfies. This replaces the release of the ego, and for some very short time it really seemed almost like a liberation. 

But there comes a time when your partner begins to behave in a way that does not meet your needs or, more precisely, the needs of your ego. Feelings of pain, fear and emptiness, are integral parts of egoistic consciousness, but until recently covered "love relationships", once again emerge on the surface. Just as with the drug, while there is a drug, you're on top, but inevitably there comes a time when the drug ceases to act on you. And when the painful feelings come back, you begin to experience them more acutely than before, and even more so, now you perceive your partner as the cause of these feelings. This means that you proetsiruesh them outward and attack him with all the cruelty that has become part of your pain. This attack may awaken their own pain of your partner and he or she can give you a date. At this point, the ego still unconsciously hoping that its attack or its attempts to manipulate would be punishment enough for your partner, may prompt them to change their behavior so that it again could use them as cover for his pain. 

Any attachment stems from the subconscious refusal to meet publicly with their own pain and go through it. Any attachment with the pain and the pain begins and ends. What would you have felt any affection - to alcohol, food, permitted or prohibited drugs, or a man - you use it is something and that someone else in order to cover up their pain. That is why after the initial euphoria is an intimate relationship, in which there is so much misery and so much pain. By themselves, these relationships are not the cause of pain and unhappiness. They dragged out the pain and the misery that is already in you. Similarly, the effect any other attachment. Any attachment inevitably comes to the point where it no longer has no effect on you, and then you feel his pain much more acutely than ever before. 

This is one reason why most people avoid at all times now and try to find at least some salvation in the future. The first thing they might encounter, they will focus their attention on the present moment, would be their own pain, but this is exactly what they fear most. If they only knew how easy staying in the moment now, to gain access to the power of presence, which would dissolve the past with all its pain, as well as to the reality, which will dispel the illusion. If they only knew how they are close to their own reality as they are close to God. 

Avoidance of relationships in order to avoid the pain - also not an option. The pain is in any case. Three failures in the relationship for the same years were more likely to push you to the awakening than three years on a desert island or three years he spent locked up. However, If you can make a rich presence in her loneliness, then for you it too will begin to work.

Love-Hate Relationship

As long as man lives neosozanno, any relationship, especially the intimate, will remain in a state of deep division and complete disorder. For some time they may seem ideal to you, such as when you visit "in love", but as the increased frequency of disputes and conflicts, as increasing feelings of dissatisfaction and the emergence of emotional and even physical violence, the destruction of this seeming perfection is inevitable. 

It so happens that used on most of the "love relationship" quickly turned into a relationship of "love-hate". Then love can change your image and turn to you the brutal attack, a feeling of hostility to you, or sudden and complete failure for you in love. And this is normal. Then for several months or several years, your relationship will be like to swing between love and hate, and wonder what more is you will - of pleasure or pain. There is nothing unusual in the fact that couples are bound to these cycles, as a harmful habit. Their drama makes them feel alive. When the balance between positive and negative polarities is lost and when the frequency and intensity of negative and destructive cycles increases, which tends to happen sooner or later, while the final break is not far away. 

It would seem that if one could eliminate the negative destructive cycles, then everything would have been able to establish good relations and would be - but, alas, is impossible. Polarity interrelated. One without the other does not happen. The positive already contains within itself and negative in its unmanifest form. Both, in essence, is the different aspects of the same disorder. I'm talking here about what is commonly called romantic relationships, not about true love, which has no opposite, since it goes from outside the mind. Love as a prolonged state still occurs very rare - as rare as conscious human beings. However, short-term and subtle flash of love possible and where in the unceasing work of the mind breaks occur. 

Of course, compared with positive, negative side of the relationship easier to recognize as bothersome. Just as significantly easier to see the source of the negative stuff in your partner than yourself. This can manifest itself in many forms: the desire to possess, in a sense of jealousy, a need to control, at a distance from the partner and the unspoken irritation at the need to be right in the inattention to the partner and care by myself in the emotional demands and manipulation, in provoking disputes, criticism, condemnation, anger or aggression, unconscious revenge for past pain that this has caused you more parents, rage and physical violence against you. 

On the positive side you are in a state of "love" to his partner. First of all, it is deeply beneficial state. You feel alive to the fullest. Your existence suddenly becomes relevant, because someone needs you, wants you and makes you feel special, and you, in turn, do the same to him or her. When you're together, you feel a whole. This feeling can become so strong that, in comparison with the rest of the world simply fades away in its insignificance. 

However, you may have noticed that in this case you have there is a need in the richness of feeling and desire to cling to it. Do you find yourself dependent on another person. He or she will act on you like a drug. When the drug is - you are at altitude, but even the likelihood, or the thought that he or she can no longer be with you, can cause a feeling of jealousy, the desire to possess, attempt to manipulate the use of emotional blackmail, can lead to recriminations and accusations that is, to the emergence of fear of loss. If the other person suddenly leaves you, it can awaken in you the sharpest sense of hostility, or grief and despair. Love-tenderness in the blink of an eye may turn out brutal attacks or uncontrollable grief. Where is the love? Can love instantly become its opposite? It was not here in the first place love, or it was just habit to touch and hold?

Benefits of Yoga

Benefits of Yoga 

Regular practice of Yoga, rapidly improving flexibility, muscle tone and fitness in general. Over time, add many more benefits, which are very valid reasons to recommend the practice. There are many and powerful arguments for the regular practice of Yoga. 

The Yoga is useful to maintain, restore and improve physical health. You can prevent stress, lower stress and anxiety. Strengthen your immune system. We benefit if you are hypertensive, diabetic, asthmatic and if you have trouble sleeping or suffer chronic headaches or back. Improve the cardiovascular system, digestive system and vision. 

The Yoga will help you stay fit and to relax the body and mind, increase your energy. Improve flexibility, strength and balance. Through its hormonal action, contribute to your mental balance, allowing at the same time, be alert and relaxed. 

The Yoga is a lifestyle that will work with your personal growth, helping you to discover the hidden potential of your body and mind. Improve your image and your self-esteem and increase your powers of concentration and your memory. 

The Yoga will free you from negative thoughts and emotions, to develop your willpower and your confidence in yourself. Improve your relationships with others, by allowing you to develop patience, tolerance, compassion and forgiveness. 

The Yoga will increase your awareness, letting you deal with clarity and serenity, the different levels of life. His practice is tailored to every need, making it simple and compatible with any other physical or mental discipline, you can practice. 

More and more Westerners have succeeded in changing their lives, "combat stress, stress, or depression, using this ancient Indian practice, which also serves to improve the appearance of our bodies. 

For thousands of years, Yoga has been a central part in the lives of millions of people throughout the world seeking healing and peace through meditative practice of this exercise. No wonder then that there are many interpretations of its benefits and that each person assigned a different interpretation. However, there is a certainty shared by all people who practice it: those who do yoga, have their age, can be found through this exercise a greater well-being, develop greater flexibility in your body, improve it aesthetically, and feel more lucid and awake .

How to Do Yoga

How to Do Yoga 

Etymologically yoga means union, since the goal of yoga is the union of consciousness with the absolute principle. The yoga is an empirical science that purifies our bodies and our minds, freeing ourselves of all shocks, a science where certain individuals have tried to plumb the mysteries of the mind, intellect, emotions, suffering and life. 

Yoga is born not of speculation, but thousands of years of experiences that have been replicated by many yogis throughout history. Yoga has its own methods and fundamentals that make a broad and comprehensive system of internal development. 

Work the physical body, the endocrine glands, internal organs while also seeks to connect the conscious with the unconscious mind and allows us to observe our mental patterns. The purpose of this discipline is to help you stay healthy, find happiness both physically and mentally and spiritually and we feel we made. 

Many people want to know what the most favorable environment for practicing yoga. For the exercises, we recommend separating a room in your house. If possible, remove all the furniture and objects that can divert your mind from practice. If you have pictures that show some spiritual reason or India, place. They will help you create the right environment. Choose a quiet and well ventilated. Successful practices also depends on a quiet, free from noise and disturbance. As you go about your practice, there must be other people in the room. If you have friends who also want to practice, you can join them together and practice exercises. 

In schools of yoga and group classes, we prefer to use a very clean and quiet room, with hardwood floors or carpeting. 

WHERE TO YOGA PRACTICE 

Many people want to know what the most favorable environment for practicing yoga. For the exercises, we recommend separating a room in your house. If possible, remove all the furniture and objects that can divert your mind from practice. If you have pictures that show some spiritual reason or India, place. They will help you create the right environment. Choose a quiet and well ventilated. Successful practices also depends on a quiet, free from noise and disturbance. As you go about your practice, there must be other people in the room. If you have friends who also want to practice, you can join them together and practice exercises. In schools of yoga and group classes, we prefer to use a very clean and quiet room, with hardwood floors or carpeting . 

HOW TO PREPARE THE SITE FOR OUR YEARS 

The site should not be very soft or soft. Ideally, we prefer the carpeted floor, or else use a blanket or a foam of about 6 inches thick. The foam and blanket have the inconvenience of moving, a problem not encountered with the carpeted floor. Whichever site you use, this should always be kept clean. Do not use shoes during practice, or step on the practice site with them. 

WHEN OUR PRACTICE EXERCISES 

Most yogis practice their exercises early in the morning. The best time to practice yoga is before the start of the day, filled with thousands of responsibility. Furthermore, in these early hours of very few things we per turban (cars, people, etc..) The practice of yoga at this time is very important also for yogis who lack exclusive quarter for their practices, as is the time when others sleep. The time prior to the appearance of the sun, is very favorable for yoga and meditation. In Sanskrit language at this time is known as Brahma muhurta (recommended schedule from 5 to 6:30). Peace of mind is absolutely necessary to practice the exercises. Hence, it is very important that you choose a fixed schedule for their practices (30 to 60 minutes).

Tips for Yoga Practice

Tips for Yoga Practice 



1. As for any practice requires consulting a doctor, particularly when they have any physical condition that might limit the possibility of holding certain positions or even suggest its contraindication. Such is the case of inverted postures, which are contraindicated in hypertensive subjects. 

2. The ideal is to perform exercises of yoga outdoors in a wooded park after a shower, as far as possible away from meals and wearing comfortable clothes. 

3. Although the basic set of exercises, yoga can be done by people of different constitution, degree of physical development and age, you must use common sense and respect the constitution limits the body itself. 

4. Also, keep in mind that each position can be perfected with constant practice, so be prepared to move progressively and not try to achieve the best possible position from the start, or push your body beyond its limit. 

5. The effect of each position is obtained with static maintenance, initially for a few seconds, extending the span of a little. The position should feel comfortable and allowed to breathe slowly and deeply. 

6. The mind must be fully aware of your body, work in progress and respiration. The only muscles that are tense should be required to maintain posture, the rest of the body should be completely relaxed. 

7. Between poses, you relax for about a minute or two in the corpse pose, breathing slowly and deeply. 

8. Each session should end with 5 minutes of meditation.

History of Yoga

History of Yoga 


Everyone has their own idea of what the Yoga: Some believe it may be an Eastern religion, while others see it as a strenuous workout. Neither perception is entirely true, because Yoga is many things. Most of us know the 21st century version of Yoga, but may not fully understand the intentions of the people who created the Yoga many, many years ago. If more people knew fully the foundations of Yoga - from the beginning to the present, more people may be inclined to accept the practice. 



The origins of Yoga date back to the oldest archaeological evidence found, dating from around 3000 BC, and it is stone seals with figures in yogic positions belonging to the civilizations of the Indus and Saraswati valleys. 

The oldest Hindu scriptures are among the oldest in the world and refers to them Yoga. Hindu culture and in general all the bitter religious and philosophical of India, has its origins in the Vedas, sacred texts that originally comes from Sanskrit. It is an entire collection of wisdom in the field of human knowledge on the physical, metaphysical and purely spiritual. According to Hindu legend, his appearance on Earth occurred when a fish (Mat-sya) saw as the god Shiva taught his Shakti Parvati (wife) exercises of Yoga. The fish mimicked Parvati and practice exercises became a man. 

This Vedic knowledge was preserved from generation to generation by oral tradition, through the recitation of the contents in the form of aphorisms. Were collected in writing, for the first time about five thousand years ago. The first written evidence found in the Vedic scriptures, the four Vedas, particularly in the Rig-Veda and the Atharva-veda, which date back to 2500 BC. 

The Yoga is ancient, dating back over 3,000 years before Christ and his evolution to the present, we can distinguish several stages with specific characteristics for each. 

The evolution of yoga has been divided for study into six categories: 

Proto Yoga is also known as Yoga or Vedic Yoga Archaic. These are elements of Yoga found in the four Vedas, Sanskrit texts, which underpins the system of sacred writings of Hinduism, some of which were written even before 3000 BC 

Pre-Classical Yoga: It is situated between 1500 BC and 500 BC, when the practice of Yoga was a form of sacrificial mysticism based on the internalization of the Brahmanic ritual. Was the development of a contemplative technology covering the concepts of proto Yoga and practices based on Vedantic metaphysics of non-dualism. 

Epic Yoga: Refers to the stage that goes from 500 BC to 200 AD is a period when there was a proliferation of schools and doctrines, mostly non-dualistic, in some cases are considered as belonging to the previous stage. 

Classical Yoga: Yoga is also called Darshana or Yoga of Patanjali, as their doctrine was established about 200 AD by Patanjali Yogasutras. It grew out of a departure from the basic non-dualistic Vedantic metaphysics and strict dualistic interpretation of reality. 

Post-Classical Yoga: It lasted from 200 AD to 1900 AD and it was basically following the yogic teachings of Yoga Classic returning to the non-dualistic teachings of Yoga Pre-Classic, but not knowing much of his philosophy -dualist, but used the way eight paces and their definitions. This stage corresponds to the writings of Tantrism and Hatha Yoga. 

Modern Yoga: This is the Yoga Integral and the many Western schools of Hatha Yoga, which develop from 1900 AD 

In the West the best known part of the Vedas are the Upanishads, treatises and poems that explore philosophical and mystical nature of the human soul. It is in the Upanishads, the last part of the Vedas (1500 BC) where the basis of yogic teachings. Surge Vedanta philosophy about reality or absolute consciousness. 

Around 500 BC there are two major epics, the Ramayana of Valmiki, Vyasa and the Mahabharata, which narrates the incarnations of God. Among the narrative is moral and philosophical topics. An important part of the Mahabharata is the Bhagavad Gita, this consists of eighteen chapters, which discusses various aspects of Yoga. Around 500 BC Patanjali compiled all existing knowledge about Yoga in the Yoga Sutras, the basic text unanimously recognized by all yogic schools. 

The Yoga Sutras are the foundation of Raja Yoga. The Yoga of Patanjali is not only a Yoga but there are others. It is what might be called the Yoga classic routine: a set of rules must be practical and very circumscribed achievements metaphysical principles of Samkhya. 

Over the years many authors have commented on the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, which are ranked in the 8 progressive steps (Ashtanga Yoga) to the realization, in Raja Yoga, the Yoga more developed in the West. Ashtanga Yoga. 

The Ashtanga Yoga or Yoga of eight steps including a set of techniques that are complementary to each other the whole practice of the yogi. The first 4 steps develop particular practice "outside" the last 4 steps practice "internal" or more staff.